LETTERS: Writer’s shift in perception about addiction offers hope

No small thing to change one’s point of view


Re: ‘Immense Suffering,’ Aug. 6 letters

Frank Sterle Jr.’s letter about his shift in perception with regards to addiction was beautifully written. As the mother of a suffering drug addict, I am grateful for his humility and insight.

I admire you, Frank. It is no small feat to shift from once looking down on those who ‘allowed’ themselves to become addicted, to now understanding the ‘ball-and-chain of self-medicating’ that is so often rooted in serious life trauma.

Your letter gives me hope.

Not hope for my son, necessarily, because for higher reasons than either he or I can know, his soul’s agenda may not include recovery. But hope for humanity. Because whether it is about addiction, or all those anti-maskers during COVID-19, it is the compassionate understanding of open minds and hearts that will heal our suffocating judgments and take the world in the direction we say we want. If we want what we see to change, we must change what we see.

After an absence of over three years, my son resurfaced briefly last year. When his emaciated state threw me into a blind panic, I sought help from a celestial source and was offered this tender advice: “Love him. Look past what you see. Look with your heart. The darkness creeping over you is a learned response.”

Good advice for anyone, on any issue.

Maureen Kerr, Surrey

Addictions treatmentLetter to the Editor

Get local stories you won't find anywhere else right to your inbox.
Sign up here

Just Posted

Dozens of Canadian venues to light up red in support of entertainment workers

Local facilities among dozens across Canada to participate in Light Up Live

Horgan’s election call ‘nakedly opportunistic,’ political scientist says

Premier says campaign will ‘fully comply’ with public health directions

Canada West Golf Championships cancelled due to COVID-19 travel restrictions

UBC, UBC-O, UFV and UVic athletes will not hit the links this year, Kelowna was set to host

Earl Marriott grad adjusting to NCAA life amid COVID-19 restrictions

Jeremiah Mackie joins older brother Jaxon on Gonzaga University cross-country team

COVID-19 exposures at Surrey schools: An updated list

Fraser Health has created a new webpage listing COVID-19 cases in schools

B.C. reports 96 new COVID-19 cases, one hospital outbreak

61 people in hospital as summer ends with election

‘Unprecedented’ coalition demands end to B.C. salmon farms

First Nations, commercial fishermen among group calling for action on Cohen recommendations

Earthquake off coast of Washington recorded at 4.1 magnitude

The quake was recorded at a depth of 10 kilometres

B.C.’s top doctor says she’s received abuse, death threats during COVID-19 response

Henry has become a national figure during her time leading B.C.’s response to the COVID-19 pandemic

Is it time to start thinking about greener ways to package cannabis?

Packaging suppliers are still figuring eco-friendly and affordable packaging options that fit the mandates of Cannabis Regulations

Join Black Press Media and Do Some Good

Pay it Forward program supports local businesses in their community giving

BC Liberals must change gears from election cynicism, focus on the issues: UBC professors

COVID-19 response and recovery is likely to dominate platforms

B.C. could be without a new leader for multiple weeks after Election Day: officials

More than 20K mail-in voting packages were requested within a day of B.C. election being called

Vancouver Island sailor stranded in U.S. hospital after suffering massive stroke at sea

Oak Bay man was attempting to circumnavigate the world solo

Most Read